Why “Being Good at What You Do” Isn’t Enough Anymore


For years, I believed that if I simply did great work, referrals would naturally follow.

But here’s what I eventually learned:

Referrals aren’t built on competence alone.
They’re built on confidence.

People refer the professionals they trust will make them look like a hero—not necessarily the ones with the deepest technical skills.

If you want consistent referrals, ask yourself these three questions:

1. What story do people tell about working with me?

If your value isn’t clear and easy to repeat, partners won’t share it.

2. How easy is it for someone to bring me into a conversation?

Scripts, checklists, and frameworks reduce friction and increase referrals.

3. Do I elevate people or extract from them?

People refer those who champion them, not those who chase them.

Here’s the shift:

Stop trying to convince people.
Start empowering them.

When you do, you move from being “good” to being referable.

Appreciate you,
Brian

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